You do not owe shit to anyone.
Especially not to those who claim you do.
You deserve to pursue your own happiness.
Even if it means you’ll have to disappoint people.
You deserve to be loved.
You deserve to respect yourself more than anyone else.
You deserve to care for yourself more than for anyone else.
You are your own person and noone, I repeat, no-fucking-one is allowed to tell you otherwise or to make you feel bad about doing all of the above.
This is my best friend.
At the moment she’s being kept alive by tubes and needles because her eating disorder is currently stronger than she is.
Does she weigh 90lbs?
No, she doesn’t.
Does it look like her eating disorder is “less severe” because she’s not “that thin”? Do you think her situation sounds “less severe” because she’s not “that thin”?
Tubes and needles.
Pain, anger, agony.
Hunger, thirst, suffering.
Dizziness, constipation, freezing cold. Passing out in front of other patients and staff.
Painful injections of vitamins and whatnot.
Nurses who’re force feeding her, who’re forcing fluids into her body because her eating disorder is currently stronger than she is.
90lbs or not, without treatment - my best friend will die.
Would you have walked past her on the street and thought she even had an eating disorder at all? Probably not, because people keep believing you can measure or estimate a persons physical and mental health state based on the silhouette of someone’s body.
Never underestimate someone’s eating disorder just because they don’t look “that thin” to you.
Being “thin” is just one of MANY symptoms of an eating disorder and it’s far, far from the most important one. Anyone can struggle and if someone you know struggles: don’t assume they’re alright just because they don’t look “that thin”.
Eating disorders come in one size; MISERABLE.